With love comes the most potent of learning experiences about one’s self. The creative force that love births into our world is beyond measure. It has given rise to innovation and invention, expanded consciousness, loving partnership, procreation as well as their antitheses; which, essentially, are one and the same energetically. In loving partnerships, the opportunity for self-growth cannot be understated. Our partnerships are a reflection of ourself, in real time. After all, we chose our partner and chose to engage in the exploration of whatever may unfold. We chose to enter in the arena and open up to the vulnerable adventure that love presents. The potential to settle into blame, projection and victim consciousness when things go awry is only accommodating to our self-serving satiation to suppress, actually, feeling our own personal truth and reflecting on what could reveal the key to experiencing the full expression of our self. This revelation of love’s gift when we experience a “break up” establishes a crack in the surface where, if we choose to accept, lifts the veil and removes the mask of an identity that no longer serves us. This is an opportunity to “break” the pattern of constricted thought, limiting beliefs and choices that are not in alignment with what we wish to experience – our soul’s directive and our loving ‘yes’. Projecting our woes on a previous partner only holds us in a cycle that will eventually reveal itself in a future experience unless we release the blame, projection and honor personal responsibility. This requires a deeper level of authenticity, integrity and respect with, and for, one’s self than we may be accustomed to. It is in this vulnerability that transformation occurs, alchemy happens and true healing takes place.
In my personal experience, the amount of love that I have for my former partner is something that I will be forever grateful for and hold dearly in my heart as it revealed the capacity to which I am fully able to express and surrender to love, as well as bringing to the surface the deepest wounds that I was unaware were still present. The magic, the beauty, the wonder, the love and revealing of my deeper, inner truth… for this, I am eternally grateful. To me, it doesn’t matter what happened, who did what or who hurt whom – that is the old paradigm of the blame game and victim consciousness. There is an inherent danger that we face when we are not personally responsible for our role in any situation. We speak to fragments of truth in order to satiate the symptoms of our wounded past and/or present rather than fully feeling and experiencing the wholeness of the truth and receiving the gift that is available to take us to the next level of our EVOLution. At some point, we must look in the mirror and dive into our soul to witness the degree to which we are responsible for what is showing up in our lives. Having gratitude and a deep level of appreciation for our experience is the maturation process and the alchemical gold that leads to sacred partnership. Love always finds a way; always on purpose and always on time.