Consider the melding of energies over a lifetime – lifetimes, perhaps. We may not know what the other person is holding, what experiences they’ve had, what triggers they have, stories they are telling themselves and quite often, we don’t allow ourselves to connect with the other person because of our own life experiences, fears and resistance. And, then we have our own stuff that we get to tune into on a consistent basis that has a very real impact on our partner. Ahhh, what a tangled web we weave!
Speaking of weaving, weaving a love that is pure, unfiltered, raw; a love that is regarded with such reverence and integrity; in essence, a sacred union with the divine – yes, that’s the tapestry that lays the foundation of heavenly love. Sounds a little foofy? Well, I can understand that. So, let me break it down. As men, we’ve been raised (as a collective, for the most part) to be emotionally devoid yet pleaded to be emotionally connected at the most sensitive of times. Seems to be rather confusing and a set up for failure at the very least. By no means is this a justification for men (the masculine), generally speaking, to be disconnected from their partner. Though, if we are to co-create a partnership that is rooted in the foundation of love absolute, then we have an opportunity to deepen our awareness of what our partner is experiencing and hold a space where she is love, adored and made to feel safe for expressing her deepest emotions and vulnerable experiences. As the masculine partner, this is imperative for her to trust, to lean into, to surrender to the knowing that her partner is not just hearing, he is listening and feeling and taking in something that is having a considerable influence on the current situation – truly present and honoring his partner. We, the masculine, empower the feminine in their expression of truth when we do so further amplifying the love and strengthening the sacred bond.
In most partnerships, we have opportunities for growth and heightened emotional discussions that tap into core wounds and experiences that haven’t been fully revealed for healing to be complete. Many run when the fire starts to burn. Many scamper hysterically to put the fire out. Many stoke the fire causing it to stir even more. How many of us embrace the fire? How many of us breathe into the fire and honor the flames that radiate light and warmth unto the very experience that we have manifested? We did say yes to it in the first place.
Embrace the Fire Within. Experience Liberation.